It’s all in how you see it
How are you living?
That’s a broad question. One that brings me to this other question.
How do you think you are living your life?
Are you living your life with a success driven mindset or are you avoiding failure no matter what the cost? Take a moment and think about it. Really, I mean it. take a moment, I’ll wait.
Did you get it? Okay, here is a few questions to help you clarify.
- Do you save to gain financial freedom or you save to invest in yourself?
- The blue pill or the red pill —which will you take? If you’ve never watched the Matrix. Here is a recap.
- Rich Dad, Poor Dad —which one are you? That’s a good read, I recommend it.
- To be or not to be?
To be or not to be. That’s the question. For some reason, this quote from Shakespeare came to mind and I decided to look it up for more details. This is what came up;
To be, or not to be: that is the question: Whether ‘tis nobler in the mind to suffer The slings and arrows of outrageous fortune, Or to take arms against a sea of troubles, And by opposing end them?
When I read that, something just clicked, I thought to myself, “Exactly!”.
Now, you might decipher it differently but when I read it, I immediately related to it in this way.
Are you taking arms against a sea of troubles, and by opposing end them? —Are you a success seeker? Are you daring and bold enough to say, NO, I’ve had enough, It’s time I made a change in my life? Are you the type that says I’m going to chase my dreams and live life as best as I can?
Are you the type that thinks it is safer to just avoid failure at all costs by landing that job, getting that raise, getting that degree. Just playing it safe and tolerating the suffering of the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune?
What are the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune?
What is this outrageous fortune anyway?
- Dreading the sound of the alarm clock.
- That constant feeling of “I hate my life, I hate my job, I hate my boss, Oh Mi God, tomorrow is Monday kind of feeling”.
- Deadline this. Deadline that. When are we getting paid? It’s the end of the month already.
- Just walking through life, existing, purposelessly working for someone else without any cause.
These and more are what I pictured as the slings and arrows when I read Shakespeare’s poem. All this suffering, for what exactly? So you can get paid a few bucks after 30 agonizing days of “pleasing someone else and helping them build their dream”?
Your “comfort zone” —this is not where you experience life
It does sound comfortable, safe, “What’s the harm? you ask. After all, you do get paid for your effort. I know, it does sound fair and to some people it is —this article isn’t for you.
300,000 UGX, half a million, 2,000,000 UGX etc. Yes, that does sound like much —an outrageous fortune. And for a moment, just a brief moment, it is until it isn’t. You see, Gary Vaynerchuk once said, “It is not how much you make but rather how you make it”. Read that again. That just resonates with all the atoms in my body. And that is how I live, I don’t care if you are paying me in Euros, or Dollars, I don’t care if you give me a blank cheque. If I feel empty, purposeless, If I feel and think to myself that I can do better or there’s got to be more to life than this, I am quitting and not looking back.
There is this idea, a concept people like to call “A comfort zone”, you heard of it? They say living is everything you experience outside this abstract entity that, to me was my little bubble of comfort for the most part of my life before and a few months after graduation. I mean I was killing it, I got my driving license at 18, went to campus like a normal student would, had a few lovers here and there, worked for my Dad after graduation —with a hefty pay— and boy did it feel so good —until It didn’t.
I felt like I had zero purpose. Now don’t get me wrong. This is all me, this is how I felt. I mean, I just felt like I was robbing the world of something. I felt like I was selling myself short. I knew and believed that I could do and achieve so much more. So I silently quit my job and slowly distanced myself from anything that was of no value to me and didn’t help me grow. I stopped showing up for work at my Dad’s and instead chased something I truly believed in. I mean It’s an amazing feeling and you know what the craziest part is? I almost always never get paid to do what I do, but I love it.
Self Improvement. Yes, that’s what I call this transformation phase.
Find what you believe in
I recently joined this amazing team at digestafrica and Malinz asked me something that was along the lines of If he was to pay my rent, transportation, and lunch which sums it all up to about 500,000 UGX every month and in exchange, I was to devote myself to helping him build what is going to be the most amazing platform ever. In my mind, I was like, “Where have you been?” So I did say yes —after a few days of thinking about it, deeply.
Was the decision worth it? Absolutely. Do I regret it? No. Have I ever considered quitting? No. Now comes the B. Do I get paid? No, not yet. Amazing, isn’t it? Yes, it is.
I don’t like working for people anymore. It might look like that’s what I am doing but it isn’t. This is the mindset I approach “employment” with. “I am going to work with you because I believe in what you are trying to accomplish and with your leadership and support, I’ll help you achieve it.” That’s it, that’s how I roll. In whatever I do, be it a small project, a startup business, school, anything basically. If I don’t believe in whatever it is, I won’t do it for or with you.
Simon Sinek once said that people are attracted to what you believe. I emphatically agree. Like attracts like. People that believe what you believe will do whatever it takes for you, they will buy and use your product even if it is not the best or the most popular in the market, they will stay and endure with you, they will stand in queue for hours just to buy that iPhone. Remember Martin Luther King’s I have a dream speech? Did you know no one was invited to attend? People just showed up, by the 1,000’s. Why? Because they believed what he believed.
In the end, life is what you make of it my friend. Your life is yours and yours alone. You decide how to live it.
And when life decides to give you lemons, say F*ck the lemons and walk away. Haha